Servants focus on others, not themselves. This is true humility: not thinking less of ourselves but thinking of ourselves less. They are self-forgetful … This is what it means to “lose your life” — forgetting yourself in service to others. When we stop focusing on our own needs, we become aware of the needs around us … When was the last time you emptied yourself for someone else’s benefit? You can’t be a servant if you’re full of yourself. It’s only when we forget ourselves that we do the things that deserve to be remembered.
—Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life (Grand Rapids, Mich.: Zondervan, 2002), 265-266.